Like a Virgin
October 13th, 2007I am enjoying a new r’ship with an incredible man who is very into anal sex. I am an anal virgin. He is very informative and answers all my questions but quite honestly, I wonder if I’m asking the right questions.
Would any of you take a trip down memory lane to YOUR first times and give this newbie any ‘hindsight insights’ ??



























October 13th, 2007 at 10:22 pm
First off, I’m a female who has had anal with only one person, my lover. He thought I might be “anal receptive” because I am so oral. The first time he gets in you will feel the most powerful union with him. He’ll be gentle, but after 5 minutes you’ll be thrusting to meet him. Good luck and let me know if you have more questions.
October 14th, 2007 at 10:32 am
Thank you for responding!
We have been working on getting me ‘adjusted’ to the feel of anal sex via plugs….. I am not yet open enough to accept him. It’s not a lack of desire….more physical limitations.
beyond wearing gradual sized plugs are there any other suggestions to increase my anal tolerance??
October 14th, 2007 at 4:49 pm
Well everyone’s different but in my experience it’s more of mental challenge than a physical one. Once you get over your apprehension you’ll be surprised how accommodating you can become!
Try this: plan an ‘anal evening’ where you decide tonight’s the night to have him inside you. Then head out for dinner or a movie, have a couple of drinks. You mind and body will be preparing while you’re out. When you get home, prepare – both you take a shower then he bends you over and tenderly lubes you up.
Now into bed, and lie spoon fashion, the tip of his cock barely inside you. Talk about your evening as he strokes your breasts, back, and clit and applies gentle pressure with his cock.
Pretty soon he’ll fall inside you … when he does, stop and relax for a few minutes. Pretty soon you won’t feel apprehensive any more
October 15th, 2007 at 4:23 pm
Although plugs are wonderful, to really train for his large cock you’d need to have worked up to a large DocJohnson plug or better yet, get a large realistic cock shaped dildo and work on inserting the head and shaft. You’ll be able to accommodate it even before you work up to the large docjohnson. A real cock slides better, is warmer, and more responsive
Several longer play sessions (moving from small to med.; then med. to large) before he gets inside would work well. Stay aroused (don’t cum while you play) and then you’ll be ready for him. I love him to rub my clit or use a vibe on it during. That way I always cum.
October 16th, 2007 at 11:45 am
Hi
I love anal sex and the fantastic orgasms it give me – nothing like clitoral or vaginal. They truly blow my mind and I cannot even focus or speak with their intensity.
What helped me in the beginning was to practice on my own with a glass dildo, the first one about 6 inches then a 10.5 inch one. I like them a little knobby but you may want to start with a smooth one. Truly the glass makes a difference – they slide in so easily and smoothly.
I always douche out my bum first, then get myself really turned on – fantasies, porn, masturbating whatever is your thing.
Then I lube up the dildo, lie on my side and push out (as though pooing) placing the head of the dildo at my anus. When just the head is past my sphincter, I relax completely and my body just sucks up the rest of the dildo, no pushing or anything. Once it’s in I just pump it to whatever speed I desire slow or fast, pretty soon I get a massive orgasm but when I was just learning I’d just be satisfied that I could play with myself in this way and relax like that for say up to 30mins.
Only when I was confident on my own did I play with anal toys with my lover, then his fingers (he really enjoyed that) then his cock and now his whole hand.
I love plugs – but prefer them inside me when he’s fucking my cunt. I think they give an entirely different sensation to a dildo or cock. I honestly think you’d be better with a long dildo but everyone is different.
Persevere – it’s really worth it.
October 17th, 2007 at 1:57 pm
For the first time I think that might be the best position-comforting, loving, held closely, murmuring, gently progressing. There are many reasons why anal is so good, but the best two are (1) the emotional closeness it generates between two people and (2) the awesome anal orgasms. The anal orgasm isn’t like the vaginal one. It’s something to do with a chain reaction or something. The anal orgasm starts deeper inside (triggered by the clitoral in me) and grabs me like a powerful wave-which like a chain reaction all of a sudden gets my vagina going as well. It feels like the cock in my ass is also stroking some back wall of my vagina, so if he’s rubbing my clit and I’m climaxing, I have a mind-blowing anal orgasm/cum clit/cum vagina.
You’ll be so happy you’ll laugh and laugh in the pure joy of it, like you’ve just heard the silliest joke. It’s so natural and so right.